Personal boundaries — concrete or plasticine? — a psychological test

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Personal boundaries — concrete or plasticine?

Is your home your castle or a hostel with the door wide open?
Find out where you end and the rest of the world begins. Maybe it's time to build a fence?

1. When someone “pries into your soul”, you…

Try to please them and spill everything about myself Answer partly, but seethe inside Keep my distance and say “stop”

2. How do you react when you feel uncomfortable?

I keep quiet and put up with it to keep the peace Sometimes I drop hints I say openly what I don't like

3. Your family can take up your time…

Freely — I always give in I sometimes agree, but resent it No — if I don't want to, I won't

4. Someone asks for help when you're exhausted…

I help even if I have no strength left I sometimes say no, but feel guilty about it I honestly say no when I can't

5. If someone hurts you, you…

Hold my emotions in, smile, everything's “fine” Get angry inside but don't show it Say directly that this doesn't work for me

6. If someone intrudes on your things or your space…

I put up with it — “I don't want to spoil the relationship” Sometimes I stay silent, sometimes I speak up I set a boundary without embarrassment

7. How do you react to other people's opinions of you?

I'm afraid of not being liked, so I adapt I sometimes hang between “being myself” and “being convenient” They don't affect me — I live as I see fit

8. If your boss piles extra work on you, how do you react?

I take it all — it's awkward to refuse I sometimes agree, then regret it Boundaries apply here too — I can say “no”

9. If you're with a group and feel uncomfortable, you…

Put up with it so as not to offend anyone Sometimes leave, but feel guilty Wrap up and leave — my own needs matter more

10. Where does your territory end?

I don't have any “territory” at all I sometimes mix up where “I” end and “everyone else” begins I know exactly where my boundaries are and can defend them