Abuser, rescuer or victim? — a psychological test

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Abuser, rescuer or victim?

Who are you in the drama of relationships?
You got the lead role — but are you sure you haven't got carried away? Check your script.

1. When something goes wrong in a relationship, you usually…

Blame myself and look for my own mistakes Try to reconcile everyone and solve other people's problems Push until things go my way

2. If your partner or friend is acting cold, you…

Think they've stopped loving me Start taking care of them to bring the “warmth” back Get tougher to show “who's in charge”

3. How do you react when someone hurts you?

I put up with it, then dwell on it for a long time I try to “save” even the people who hurt me I strike back and get tough

4. How do you behave in a conflict?

I shut down and am afraid to speak up I rush in to sort it out for everyone I go on the offensive and get my way

5. When someone near you is suffering, you…

Feel guilt or anxiety Take responsibility for their mood Think it's not my problem

6. How do you take requests for help?

I often feel obliged I rush to the rescue at once I get irritated and wonder why I should bother

7. In a relationship, the main thing for you is…

Not to offend, not to hurt To “cure” my partner of all their troubles To control things and keep everything in my hands

8. How do you see other people's boundaries?

I try not to disturb others I sometimes cross them for the sake of “helping” Other people's boundaries? That's only about me!

9. If your partner is “suffering”, you…

Feel guilty Drop everything to “save” them Get irritated or angry

10. Your thoughts after a quarrel?

“I've ruined everything” “How can I help everyone so things are good again?” “Good — people need to be put in their place”